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I found it refreshing how your book is much more a personal journey than I expected, as much about you as it is about the people you cared for. I had a lot of requests from people to write a memoir of my own, so I was able to merge them together. In hindsight I think I would have changed the title.
You live and learn. When did you start to notice patterns in what your patients were telling you?
Certainly within the first year. In your book, the person who really encapsulated rerets first regret was Grace. You managed to get quite close to her. Can you tell me what that experience was like and what you learned from it?
She was a woman who was in so much to for not having given herself the life she wanted. It had a very profound effect on me. And she also made me promise, before she died, that I would bronnir a life true to myself.
I knew that no matter how hard it would be to stay true to my own path—and it does take courage to do that—nothing could be as painful as lying on your deathbed with that regret. I was seeing it first hand.
Nurse Reveals Top 5 Regrets of the Dying – Mindful
I saw it over and over. Grace was the first one, and I came to see it regularly and I came to expect it. But I wondered, that feeling of not having lived a life true to oneself, was that something you heard more often from women?
When I think about it, it was more from women. What else do you think might be specifically generational, in the regrets that you observed people having? These days a lot more people have counseling and therapy. Hopefully, as it is harder now to lose track of friends. My book has inspired them to reconnect with friends, to write to their friends and tell them they love them. Despite Facebook and everything else, they have let those friendships slip by.
I ended up burning out. I looked after dying people for eight years and I really needed some time to look after me. I understand you have a meditation practice.
Nurse Reveals Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
I learned through meditation that compassion starts with yourself. It was my biggest lesson: I was suicidally depressed. It just taught me to celebrate my vulnerability and my humanness, and to realize how much was not about me.
We all get conditioning from family, peers and society. Compassion really allowed me to have compassion for myself and for other people. I just have to look after me and love me.
Those lessons must have been helpful in hearing the troubles of those who were dying. Yes, it taught me not to judge. I had compassion and respect for whatever that life had been like. I think regret is a very harsh judgment on yourself. The dying regretss who were expressing regrets to me already had their own judgment.
Through meditation I also learned mindfulness and being regretw present with the people. I think meditation really helped me stay calm. I was often the unofficial mediator in the family, and I think meditation is the key to my success in that role.
I think once you do connect with that part of yourself with a regular practice, there comes a time when your heart speaks too loudly for you to ignore.
The world needs more of these. As a small, dedicated non-profit, Mindful reached over 5 million people online inbringing compassion and connection into the hearts, homes, and communities of our readers. Every year, we rely heavily on people like you—our readers—to accomplish this work. Mindful Staff editors work on behalf of Mindful magazine, Mindful. How long were you in personal care work? And you saw it in other people you were working with.